Ok, so Vi is almost at the four month mark WOO HOO!!! Her colic is gone and we are making a comeback from a breastfeeding setback and things are looking good! Baby girl has learned to roll over, sat in her mamaroo for about 15 minutes (a real record compared to the colicky, don’t-set-me-down kind of baby she was), and so much more. Since I’m feeling so positive today I thought I’d write about the things I’ve learned.
1 – Keep trying.
This applies to pretty much everything. Your baby is changing daily and that means that the expensive rocker/jiggler/swinger thingy may not be their favorite thing right now, but give it a few weeks and try it again. Same applies to babywearing, some babies are naturals, others need to be practiced into it so if that’s a thing you’re into then don’t give up.
During her season of colic Violet refused to be anywhere other than my very tired arms. I would put her in every soft-structure/wrap/sling I own just trying to get her to get used to it, but no deal. Since she’s been feeling better she has come to love our ring sling and has even fallen asleep in the soft-structure carrier (woohoo!!). What a God-send!
2 – Co-sleeping is not as hard as I thought…it’s actually kind of nice.
I was amendment that I would never be able to co-sleep because I’m such a heavy sleeper, but that has changed since V arrived. Now she cuddles up next to me at night and has yet to suffocate. I’ll probably do a post at some point about why I ended up co-sleeping even though I didn’t want to, so I won’t go into that here. However, after 4 months I am sooooooo ready to have my half of the bed back.
3 – The way you sleep will change.
I mentioned above that I used to be a heavy sleeper, and by that I mean like a log! I would also move all over the place, so I think you get the idea of why I wrote off co-sleeping before we even tried it. After having Violet I wasn’t getting more than 1.5 hours of sleep, even for the three nights we were in the hospital, then when we got home I was pumping every two hours and trying to eat meals and shower occasionally so I wasn’t gaining many minutes by having her home with us either. At this point I still wake every couple of hours for feedings and if not for that then I’m awake to check on her. Every little sound and movement has me looking at this sweet little sleep stealer.
4 – There is not enough water in the world to quench your thirst.
This is mostly a breastfeeding thing I believe, but I have had cotton mouth more times in the last week than I can count on both hands. Your body becomes a dry spot in the world sucking up all the humidity in an attempt to re-hydrate itself. The only thing I know to do is to just keep chugging along.
5 – You will use your non-dominant hand as much or more than your dominant one.
This one really gets on my nerves because I like to (and need to) do things fast and my left hand is just not up to par. My babe likes to be held a loooooooooooot, which means I’m one handed most of the time. I’ve become better at not dropping food all over the place though which is nice.
So there they are, five of the things I have learned thus far. This is by no means a comprehensive list but I have found that I get writer’s block whenever I think of ALL THE THINGS! The truth is that you learn new things every day about you, baby, your partner, life in general…it’s a long and ongoing list of crap you have to process. There’s so much that I have a bonus for you
6 – Your life will never be the same again.
And this is a good thing. I struggle with big changes because I seem to be programmed to believe that most change is bad, but that’s not true. Change is just another opportunity to experience something awesome. It is what you make of it, so go out there and do great things with what you’ve got. Here are a couple of photos of the babe –
My darling girl playing in her “violet” bumbo seat. She lasted about five minutes.
This smile. I just can’t.